This is taken from my book: How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk! By Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
This is a really great book and anyone that has children or works with children in any capacity, if you work at a day care, or at your church nursery or you have nieces and nephews or you are a Nanny like me! This is a great book for you to read! the first chapter talks about helping children deal with their feelings, which is a huge thing.
Children need to have their feelings accepted and respected
1) You can listen quietly and attentively.
2) You can acknowledge their feelings with a word.
3) You can give the feeling a name.
"That sounds frustrating"
4) You can give the child his wishes in fantasy/
"I wish that i could make a big box of cereal appear for you right now!"
All feelings can be accepted.
Certain actions must be limited.
Recognize that your child has feelings, and MAKE sure that you RESPECT those feelings!
I hope you try these this week!